“The only time a guy’s guard is completely down is when he’s with the woman he loves. So she can pierce his heart like no one else.” ~Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only
This is one of many interesting points introduced in this book, which claims to tell women what they need to know about the inner lives of men. I haven’t gotten very far into it yet, but it’s already given me a lot to think about, like the idea that men want to be respected even more than they want to feel loved. That’s obviously weird for me, since women are the opposite, for the most part, in that they’d rather be loved than be respected. (Granted, both sexes would prefer to have both.) Ideally, with love should come respect, and vice versa, but I don’t think that’s always the case. Whether men care to admit it or not, women hold a lot of power and the ability to change a man’s mood with just a few choice words. So even something like challenging a man’s decision not to stop and ask directions can speak volumes to him about how he’s valued (or devalued) as an intelligent man capable of making responsible decisions. Later in this same chapter, the author says, “If a man’s wife believes in him, he can conquer the world–or at least his little corner of it.” That’s pretty amazing. (FYI: There’s a book called For Men Only that’s all about women.)
What do you think? Do you desire love or respect more?
This might be my last entry for a while, as tomorrow I’m leaving for Seattle to embark on my road trip! On Sunday we’re (myself, Emily, and Kristin) leaving Seattle and heading to Oregon, from Oregon to San Francisco, from San Fran to Vegas, from Vegas to Albequerque, from Albequerque to Oklahoma City, and from Oklahoma City to Memphis. Should be quite the adventure. I’ll be sure to take lots of pictures.